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which is worse: sexing someone who is in a relationship with someone else or sexing someone else when in a relationship?
What HAVE you done?
of you know the other person, or are friends with them. Then it is arguably even worse.
im not sure.
but it does come up to a similar level i think.
theres also issues of who instigated the sexing
as long as both people did it.
if a person in a relationship approaches someone and basically offers them sex, and the person approached doesnt know the approachers partner, i cant really imagine, were i the approached, feeling guilty about it, cos all id know about the relationship would be that it didnt seem to mean much to the approacher.
what if you were the approacher's actual partner?
for going and sexing people up, but dont think that i would hate the sexed up person that much at all.
that it was someone else's supposed partner they were sexing?
i just think if people said 'no' in situations like that, then the person who wants to cheat might be forced to be honest with the person they're cheating on, and save a lot of hassle.
but the first one isn't particularly nice either.
A. is pretty bad but B. is worse.
*not with each other obviously.
but B's worse. A isn't a betrayal, it's just unkind.
unless the person the sexee is involved with is your friend, in which case both are equally shit.
how was it for you?
you can't really say any situation is worse than another without talking about the consequences - or at least the possible consequences
in an abstract sense both A and B could be considered 'bad' but in either case the outcome could possibly be a positive one - they could just as easily both have negative consequences also
It depends on the individual situation
In many ways the consequences of A could be a lot worse than B
i guess if one were to fuck one's best friend's brand new girlfriend, one's betrayal would be worse than the girlfriend's.
and before anyone else PMs me, i've never cheated on a girlfriend, and the only time ive had sex with someone who had a boyfriend, the girl had lied to me about the guy.
in a fit of unfaithfulness you cheat on your partner and after the glow has gone you realise that you've made a terrible mistake and that you really only love your partner and so you change your ways accordingly
you realise that your previous relationship is a sham and that it would be better for both you and your partner to call it quits
you sex someone who is cheating on her boyfriend and two weeks later a big gorilla steps up to you at the bar and says 'are you alcxxk' after which confirmation he glasses you in the face and goes home to slap your lover
you walk into your flat to find you flatmate having an earnest conversation over a nice cup of tea with a well-dressed and well spoken young gentlemen. He gets up to leave and your flatmate says to him 'thank you so much for the conversation, it was really appreciated'.
You say 'Who was that?'
Your flatmate says 'That was XXXX's boyfriend' !
I could go on forever - there's a million different scenarios but my basic point is that if you sex someone who has a partner you don't know, that partner is a rogue and random element that could come crashing into your life at any minute whereas I'd assume one might have a fair assessment of how your girlfriend might take it (or indeed whether she might ever be guilty of the same thing)
i think the way im seeing it, to make the question of what is "worse" more tangible is: a&b are a couple. a&c do sex. who should b be more angry with?
then a. Even if c is aware, the blame still mostly lies with a.
and a is a girl then b will likely be more angry with a whilst at the same time more likely to take said anger out on c
Both have equally damaging consequences.
If you are just meaning in terms of yourself, that the former will (I would hope) make you feel more guilt, since you'd be more emotionally involved with the person you'd be hurting.
Never done either though and hope I never will.
youd be more iemotionally involved with someone you have sex with than someone youre in a relationship with??
t'other way round was what my currently brain dead self was meaning
I hate all this moral judgment. It's all about personal situations and blahblahblah.
and im not saying that there is a staright answer to this question
b can only be angry at a, supposing c is a stranger.
It's irrational to think that c would take b's feelings into account.
In my opinion, it is a who is ultimately responsible for their actions, and to try and blame the 3rd party is just an act of cowardice.
EVEN is it was c who did all the pursuing and convincing and wooing, the decision to cheat is a's and a's alone.
This has nothing to do with the 'rightness' or 'wrongness' of their actions however.