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"living for the weekend" aka i hate my friends' idea of fun

soapy [Edit] [Delete] 59 replies 20:16, 10 January '07

i can't understand people whose whole lives are based around waiting for the weekend just so they can go out then blow all their money getting pissed.
and the whole purpose of the night out really is JUST to get pissed.

a whole load of my mates are like this now and i can barely relate to them at all. nights out with them are a blur of chain bars and sticking to "The Route". The Route must never be strayed from, it takes into account all of durhams "classier" bars and is set up so that you can have a pint in each and get pissed before hitting aussie themed nightmare Walkabout, which passes as the cities biggest (and by extension "best") 'club'.
what it leaves out, of course, is time for talking to each other or anything else that may pass for reasonable social interaction. besides which the places are all that fucking loud chances of anyone being able to hear what each other are saying are very slim.

luckily the one part of the Tonight with Trevor MacDonald binge drinking expose special cliche most (but not all) are managing to avoid is that tendancy that exists, mainly, within older man (round about 30 but refusing to except that they're not 18 anymore) of attempting to grope any girl who stands near them for longer than 5 seconds.

eugh.
i'm probably gonna lose a bunch of friends by not taking part in this dismal weekly ritual, but quite frankly i'm not bother.
i have other friends in other places who i actually have things in common with that i enjoy doing.

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  • if you want

    'conversation' then going out at the weekend is a waste of time, frankly .... being in a pub after 9pm is a waste of time

    JacobJones | 10 Jan '07, 20:17 | X
    • not if you go to the right places

      ie not Chase, Hogs Head etc

      soapy @JacobJones | 10 Jan '07, 20:19 | X
      • and by conversion

        i meant anything other than screaming DRINK? DRINK? ... YOU WANNA DRINK? ... I SAID ... DRINK !?

        soapy @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 20:20 | X
        • even

          in pubs i quite like, it's like that after 9pm most weeknights and is unbearable at the weekend. i can't think of anywhere in manchester were conversation on a friday is possible

          JacobJones @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 20:28 | X
          • indeed.

            Jamie_Summers | 10 Jan '07, 20:20 | X
            • I don't know really

              I never thought this kind of thing was fun. I DO like getting pissed at the weekend, but on my terms and with people I want to spend time with.

              To be honest if you go and see a gig then there isn't much conversation, yet it is seen as some kind of social interaction. I don't blame people for doing things like this because we are an overworked, miserable nation, but yes, I get your point about "the route" and that fucking sucks.

              devonmalcolm @Jamie_Summers | 10 Jan '07, 20:23 | X
            • yeh my firends go out every friday saturday night

              ame places every week, i choose not to most of the time but can still have an enjoyable time when i do go out, i dont find the talking to people that big a problem, the musics not *that* loud.

              sharp_yet_blunt | 10 Jan '07, 20:24 | X
            • I feel the same way about a lot of people I know,

              and because I do see the effects of such behaviour and the dark side it brings out I definitely steer clear.
              I much prefer going to a place where I can have social interactions without the need to shout, and often without the need to drink. It's much nicer for sure...

              zcapx42 | 10 Jan '07, 20:27 | X
              • I fully agree.

                I have lots of friends who have become acquiantances because of this kind of nonsense. It's like substituting noise and vomit for social interaction, I can't honestly remember when I had a real conversation with them when they weren't either pissed or hung over with most of them.

                The thing is, people who I genuinely enjoy the company of get sucked into it as well. My housemates always drag me to these faux classy bars before the club and I just don't see the point. You can't talk because the music is so loud, the drinks are ridiculously expensive, and you can't dance. We have great conversations between ourselves whilst we are warming up at the house, so why insist on this meaningless hurdle? I can't see how they can possibly enjoy it anymore than I do.

                *shakes stick*

                Parsefone | 10 Jan '07, 21:17 | X
              • In durham

                I've heard Klute is good, in a bad way.

                (world's worst nightclub, as it markets itself)

                lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 21:19 | X
                • I used to live that lie

                  Thing is, I reckon people get totally mullered at the weekend as their 9 to 5 job is so shit.

                  I was stuck in an office doing car insurance, BASIC pay (10K) with a degree in Music, and using my weekends trashing myself any way possible in any part of the country I may rock up in next.

                  People have no motivation to follow what they want to do as the only way to make cash these days is either:

                  1) Be rich already
                  2) Be someone who knows someone
                  OR
                  3) Be on some fucking trash reality TV show, have an IQ less than a piece of shit, not win, buy some big titties and then decide to fuck half of China Whites.

                  Christ, I'm certainly NOT going to make it then!

                  Billy3000 @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 21:31 | X
                  • ...

                    "People have no motivation to follow what they want to do as the only way to make cash these days is..."

                    Surely that argument only makes sense if what you want to do is make money.

                    joeymahone @Billy3000 | 10 Jan '07, 22:42 | X
                    • beat me to it

                      ex_cynic @joeymahone | 10 Jan '07, 22:53 | X
                • Klute

                  FHM actually did give it the title of worst club in europe back when i was at school and apparently very little has changed since. i avoid it.

                  soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 21:38 | X
                  • yeah its only worst nightclub

                    as the real worst one in bulgaria burnt down. My friend says it is appalling.

                    lemonbrickcombo @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 21:40 | X
                    • it was vile

                      students would go because it was, oh i don't know, 'ironic' or something.

                      and the locals would go because they were pissed up middle aged slags and drunken tossers trying to retain some pretence of youth by going out and trying to pull said slags.

                      soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 21:44 | X
                      • or

                        underaged kids who didn't know any better

                        soapy @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 21:44 | X
              • Old man pubs

                are the way forward.

                colonol_k | 10 Jan '07, 21:21 | X
                • ugh

                  that's a phrase former friends always use. What does "it's the way forward" even MEAN

                  Parsefone @colonol_k | 10 Jan '07, 21:24 | X
                  • I don't know

                    I'll flag it up and see who salutes it.

                    colonol_k @Parsefone | 10 Jan '07, 21:27 | X
                • Well I mean really

                  somewhere that's quieter, where you can actually talk without yelling. And isn't filled with wankers.

                  colonol_k @ClydePressman | 10 Jan '07, 21:31 | X
                • ^^^^^ YES

                  Bradford, Lancaster and Preston CAMRA pubs have all felt my seething wrath of booze fuelled fury.

                  Billy3000 @ClydePressman | 10 Jan '07, 21:42 | X
                • GENUINE FEAR if a WALKABOUT is the best 'club' you have in town

                  Get the hell out of there quickly...

                  Rose-Kitten | 10 Jan '07, 21:29 | X
                  • Watford = worst

                    devonmalcolm @ClydePressman | 10 Jan '07, 21:31 | X
                    • Worse than Middlesbrough

                      I bet not.

                      james_delve @devonmalcolm | 10 Jan '07, 22:37 | X
                  • the Burnley one

                    is like an obsense cattle market.

                    Billy3000 @Rose-Kitten | 10 Jan '07, 21:43 | X
                    • yeah

                      while there's a time and a place for clubbing and for getting pissed, it saddens me (in the worst way) that so many people's lives revolve around "the weekend" and getting "smashed" in crap nightclubs. It's just Hard-Fi-culture and it's kind of pathetic.

                      I wouldn't worry about losing those friends, it doesn't sound like they're either fun or interesting to be around.

                      OceanStorm | 10 Jan '07, 22:11 | X
                    • Where is there to go in Durham?

                      I don't understand where people go on a night out in Durham...

                      junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:42 | X
                      • Newcastle.

                        james_delve @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:42 | X
                        • Newcastle is not in durham though

                          ;)

                          junkstaposition @james_delve | 10 Jan '07, 22:43 | X
                          • no

                            it's VASTLY superior in every way.
                            i wish i still lived there. :(

                            soapy @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:44 | X
                            • people go out in durham because they're stuck there

                              soapy @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:45 | X
                            • Still...

                              where is there to go in durham?

                              I got drunk on christmas eve in brown sugar! yay!

                              Though, that doesn't stay open late does it?

                              junkstaposition @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:45 | X
                              • thats actually good ?

                                erm... the swan is a sam smiths pub so it's nice and cheap. the city is usually pretty decent. jimmy allens is okay but i rarely go there.
                                other than that you've got 'old man' pubs like the shakespear then you, basically have to rank the others in order of least worst.

                                soapy @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:50 | X
                                • and NEVER

                                  go out on north road (where the bus station is)

                                  soapy @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:51 | X
                                  • That's scary enough during the day,

                                    and i don't even want to get started on the bus station (north road/station are FULL of weird men). Brown sugar's nice for a quiet drink, but i can't imagine it being brilliant on a night out. It's a bit too serene, and i would imagine expensive too.

                                    junkstaposition @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:55 | X
                      • a warning to newcastle/durham dissers

                        I'm visiting up there sometime this year. SAY HI TO ME!

                        lemonbrickcombo @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:45 | X
                        • "a warning"

                          heh aww. How come you're going up there?

                          junkstaposition @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:48 | X
                          • Erm

                            twofold. My best girl mate is at Northumbria doing Law (she's way too smart for both the uni and the course, silly girl) and she's coming down to bath to see klaxons with me (ON VALENTINES DAY YAY). So plan is I go visit her too, as newcastle is apparently ace for nights out. And my best and oldest friend does chemistry at durham, and I wanna visit him too.

                            lemonbrickcombo @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:50 | X
                            • Ahh right

                              OOH, when in Durham, go find soapy in walkabout and talk to him. Yeeeah.

                              junkstaposition @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:52 | X
                              • I think I shall

                                what's good in newcastle? digital is apparently great...so I hear.

                                lemonbrickcombo @junkstaposition | 10 Jan '07, 22:53 | X
                                • digital has the BIG

                                  MASSIVE indie disco night (stonelove on a thursday) and its suprisingly good.
                                  and an absolute sweatbox.

                                  club wise, World Headquarters can be FANTASTIC if you hit it on the right night.

                                  pub wise, i really liked places like the cluny and the forth

                                  soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:57 | X
                                  • she mentioned that the academy clubnights were pretty good too

                                    I'll probably be up around easter I guess. DiS pintage?

                                    lemonbrickcombo @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:59 | X
                                    • yeah

                                      see if the other locals up here can tear themselves from their monitors too.

                                      i've only been to the metal night at the academy which is a ball in a retro-nu-metal party like its 2001 again kinda way :D

                                      soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 23:02 | X
                                      • lol

                                        I'll make it happen. I need local guides, as no doubt jess will abandon me at some point.

                                        lemonbrickcombo @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 23:08 | X
                            • newcastle is brilliant for nights out

                              and too smart for northumbria ? what does she have, GCSEs ?
                              i went there. it isn't the best.

                              soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:53 | X
                              • nah

                                decent a levels.ABB or something. She went there because they pay for your legal practice certificate. And she just loved newcastle.

                                lemonbrickcombo @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:56 | X
                              • sorry I don't mean to demean you

                                by saying that she was too smart for there :s

                                lemonbrickcombo @soapy | 10 Jan '07, 22:57 | X
                                • nah its fine

                                  i was in there with fairly decent results too.
                                  plus living in newcastle is ace

                                  soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:58 | X
                        • HI!

                          *wave*

                          soapy @lemonbrickcombo | 10 Jan '07, 22:51 | X
                    • you can't "understand" this

                      and yet you live in durham?

                      guntrip | 10 Jan '07, 22:55 | X
                    • I get what you mean

                      As I'm the kind of person who considers a day when you get up past 11am a day wasted, I don't do the dismal nightclub dance routine.
                      I have enough of my plate as it is, and it's not the kind of music I find enjoyable, and the picking up of people in nightclubs is pretty pathetic, as there's no room for getting to know someone, over the impossibly loud music.

                      I just hate taking advantage of people this way. But if people enjoy the dance, I'll let them, I'm not one to judge. But shouting your lungs out in a crowd and drinking alcohol is not a good way of meeting interesting people. But anyway, I have a natural defence mechanism- I don't like beer.

                      I've resigned from this club long ago, actually, especially seeing the effect it had on my finances. It drains money a lot faster than I'd thought, along with everything I've said before, so I only really play/go to gigs/ocassional house parties/watch the footy nowadays, never clubbing.

                      Murder | 10 Jan '07, 23:28 | X
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