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mostly it'll be about 3, and the others will fuck off back to their home friends after five minutes of fun.
I was cool...
An afternoon. But I am a great person, so that's understandable.
decent requires definition. i don't think i made a single crap friend either.
A decent friend is anyone you can carry on an entire conversation with using only lyrics by Linkin Park and Disturbed as source material.
that with strangers
I think you should. You look like you're about to break.
Do you need a little room to breathe?
i think im coming down with the sickness
you'll end up like me and realise going to university was the biggest mistake you ever made
just moped around in a slightly different location, most likely. you're being unnecessarily discouraging.
young boy once. i played football, was outgoing and outspoken and one o' th' lads. then i went to university.
but maybe i am uniquely unfortunate. you'll be fine, whoever you are. i'm sure.
and i'm sure i will be fine. thanks. was just pissed off at your incessant negativity. if someone isn't at uni and considering going, what you're saying might be relevant, but when people are already there, they might as well make the most of it.
but i was talking to taperjeangirl. you're right - most people can probably have a decent time at university, i'd have thought. i just buggered mine up hideously badly.
i am chuffed to be liked and respected though.
uni is certainly not as good as it's cracked up to be, or at least it's far more varied in how good it is. first year did mostly suck.
need to remind myself that if i'd not gone to uni i'd be telling you that it was the missing link in my life.
but aye. continue being respectable you wolly minded liberal ponce
:-D and cheer up!
I'm actually very intrigued. You read a demanding subject, gained a first and are now on the road to a (eventually) well-paid and respected career.
What went wrong?
my subject wasn't particularly demanding and i'm working in politics, which is regarded as pretty loathsome.
but basically, nee sex
A few casual conversation partners, yes.. but little else. I'm sad :(.
on saturday and have no known them for 10 years I'd say it took me over 19 months to meet them - people from the first year were just disagreeable fellows.
for 2 months now and I've met one that I like. I don't live on campus though, so it's a little more difficult to meet people, and I'm just a little shy.
month ago, and didnt move to student housing for a few days after that...i feel this has had a detrimental effect on my social life...to add to this, i have yet to attend any societies, but this is soon to change...
all indie soc people are just bureaucrats by any other name!
just do more brDIStLOL giggage. otherwise you'll meet people whose idea of indie is listening to embrace 24/7.
at ours, societies were for religious or political zealots and ethnic minorities. everybody else was too busy getting drunk and shagging n that.
we had an SWP one and a Tory one. Clearly wasn't going to join either of those but the Labour one did sod all.
We also didn't have an indie one. We had a RAWK one though.,
really close friends, and a few decent ones.
doesn't matter though innit.
real question is how many people have you met that you really wish you had never had the displeasure of meeting...i'd say about 7 maybe more than that mostly guys but a couple of very cheap nasty girls too...
as two social groups we seem very good at spotting and avoiding the other.
lucky then. i met a fair few in the first couple of weeks. i have managed to avoid them all successfully so far though :)
I don't know if I'd go so far as to say I hated them, but there were two or three folks whose personality was basically just a long-term strategy of provocation. And even they were fun.
There's not much more satisfying than rushing back home to tell your housemates that you met the world's biggest twat, only to discover they've all met him too.
then you'll find some new friends and never speak to them again.
then they'll cry all the fluid out of their bodies and die.
and i'll laugh.
in 3 years because I was such a tragic monster, I went so long without speaking that I couldn't speak when I tried. So yeah people should go speak to the creepy loner in the front row.
Not one. Shower of bastards.
I wasn't unpopular by any means, and always had people to go out with, but there's only 2 people I felt moved to stay in touch with once I finished Uni.
After I finished Uni I moved to London and now have much closer friends here than I ever really had at Uni (or even school).
in 3 years. I have about 2 not-so-decent.
About a year, probably.
Only see two people from Uni days anymore...and one of them pretty much lives in America.
I found it interesting how I fell out of touch with one person in particular. After uni, he sort of hermited himself away with his needy girlfriend to the point where his idea of a saturday night was to watch a movie with her dad on the couch, whilst she and her mother went to bingo...!!!!!!
I persuaded him to go to strawberry fair with me, my new chick and another mate from uni, who, when we arrived, produced the largest, most potent joint I'd ever seen, which I smoked, and pretty much didn't say a word after, for the next eight hours.
From that day on, friend A (now former friend) pretty much lost interest...thinking I was still some student waster, which, in fairness, I am, a little bit...but that really was an isolated incident...weed consumption made all the more fatal by the fact I hadn't smoked in months. We saw each other a few times after that, but I got the distinct feeling his girlfriend would badger him- going 'dave, do you and will talk about anything other than records or do anything constructive when you're together?'
I was a little bit sad about that, but he was a weird, henpecked fella, and something like that was bound to happen eventually...
because i hated 98% of the people on my course. And, about the same amount at the uni in general.
Also, because i'm shit at making friends. mostly due to never calling anyone, or arranging to meet up with them ever.
I get on great with people when I bump into them or if there's a context to meet or talk but I'm terrible at arranging to casually meet people. I just freeze and don't do it.
I've only been rescued from this by recently making friends with people who call me and invite me out all the time - thus saving the need for me to do the same to them.
although it's often as much out of laziness as freezing, if i'm being entirely honest.
not on myspace :p
in the first two days.
But I think I've still only made fives close friends in total in over two years. But I KNOW lots of people. I just hate them.
with making friends here? It's like a competition to see who had the worst time or something.
To answer the original question: dunno. Friends that I still see now, I'd met them all within the first month or two, I think.
About a week, I was very lucky.
I'm very popular and attractive.
I still see him every couple of months, even though we live in different cities. Everyone within the first month or so, I reckon, I live with my best friend from uni now, the others are all spread out but I see them a few times a year.
the one I live with now, I met after about three weeks.
I was pretty lucky to meet so many ace people so soon, but it's not that hard, surely?
Out of the five I'm still in contact with, I met four on the first day and the other about a week later. I'd say two were close friends by the end of the first week, two more within a month or so, and the other was only a casual acquaintance until the third year.
The worrying part of that is that I didn't seem to make any long-lasting friendships after that first batch.