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Does it ever work?
Good idea to go out on the piss with them?
I'm thinking no, but i'll go anyway. I'm a masochist.
We've realised that we have no friends.
To be fair, it's gonna end up him slinking off with some other girl, and me just getting drunk and being a bit of a loser all alone.
BUT i get a free taxi there/home.
Unless that includes us drunkenly getting back together.
Whish is pretty much a possibility.
I think i may call it off.
you won't get a free taxi home, will you...?
I'd say; not worth it, unless you are STRONGER THAN ME.
I'm sleeping in his spare room, i do believe.
almost as much as when a friend of mine split with her long time boyfriend and they both decided they "could" continue living in the house they bought together "as friends".
I'm sure it could work. Maybe. In a "like-a-sitcom" way.
because you're not in them.
I tend to feel like shit for a week or so, crying and moping and the like, then realise I'm being stupid, move on, get a new partner, repeat.
I'm not friends with my exes, I HATE THEM ALL.
to a complete lack of surprise from anyone who knows me.
...on why and how you broke up and whether you secretly would rather like to get back with them. I try to be friends with ex-boyfaces but er, this tends to become confused...for example, I still shag the ex I was with two years ago which probably isn't a good idea but fuck it, he's fit! So yeah, its probably a good idea to stay friends, purely for selfish sexual reasons.
from my experience, too much bitterness and can feel awkward.
being civil is ok, but actual friends? nah.
but sometimes it just takes time and space for it to stop being awkward
exes are shit.
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to not be friends with the ex this message was regarding.
He turned up on my doorstep the other night and practically molested me. The only way I could get him to leave was by saying "Er, I sort of have a boyfriend". Then he got a bit jealous and said he'd call me later.
I ignored said call (slept through it, actually), and am now being bombarded with texts asking if i've got plans for [whenever].
Typical case of "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you". It's a bit childish.
(you last paragraph i mean)
It's ridiculous. You don't break up with them if you're not prepared to deal with them finding someone else.
it happens all the time with everyone.
Hmmm - went/am going through a similar thing with my ex... right now, tho, i don't really care emotionally for him... although it's taken (counts on fingers) me a good 8 months to get there... So right now am in a strong place and couldn't care less... it also helps that he's a twat. I'd say give these things time... it's true - time does heal all wounds - and crucially, it depends on 'the ex' and how much of a twat they are... Good luck!
One of those people who acts very arrogant and over the top.
I thought that that was all a mask for some kind of deep-seated suffering.
I was wrong.
He used to get arsey if i ever went into his room without invitation.
Plus he was always too drunk to actually DO anything. If we went out drinking i don't see how things would be different.
My best friend in Bristol (where i went to uni) is my ex, and so it meant that i could go and visit her and have a good fun time, and we are both seeing other people, but i would stay with her and everything was dandy, except my current girlfriend has just started studying an erasmous year there so i feel obliged to stay with her. which is fine, but she isn't really into going raving at all, so i can see it coming to a head when i go down for a weekend and end up going out all night with my ex.
It takes a while and it has to be worth it but Yes it can work and it can be great.
yes it does. sometimes.
It depends on to what extent you were ever friends in the first place. Like, two of my exes I'm friends with, but with both I was friends in the first place before anything happened, and what happened was never too serious. Another, who I was with for a long time and really involved, I don't think I'll ever be friends with again - it ended too badly and it's nothing but falseness to pretend we can get on.
I am slightly jaded to this though because of my boyfriend's ex who is a right royal pain in the ass.
friends with my first girlfriend before going out with her except for about 3 weeks. she's now my best friend and will be till the day i die. it's nice, like.
and then, even my other serious girlfriend ... i think i'm friends with her. i just happen to be a bit preoccupied with trying to sleep with her .... :(
long did that take? I broke up with my ex of 5 and a half years in January (my decision), haven't seen him since Feb and have had a happy birthday text since and not much else. My best friend's getting married next year and he'll almost certainly be there. Want to avoid the awkwardness at the wedding by getting talking again before then but no idea how to broach it! :S
Yes being friends with exes is good, but you have to wait a long time.
if you're forced into it because all your friends are the same, but it then takes years to actually really feel okay about it.
Yep, if you back off altogether until you're repaired.
No, if you can't let go or they happen to be a tosser.