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How much of an age difference would you consider too much for a relationship?
90 years. No, 91.
so a 20 year old can go out with a 17 year old, or a 24 year old with a 21 year old, but no younger.
this is evidently bullshit, but it is surprisingly intuitively correct for sort of 16-22 ish.
1/2 of 24 + 7 = 19 shirly?
that's really quite impressive in its incompetence.
60 and 45
or 60 and 80
18 and 24
or 24 and 30
40 and 30
or 40 and 50
20 and 15 - not right
At the time, before I met him I was really worried and was all "Mate, thats wrong, he's only after one thing etc" they have been going out for 4 years now.
No he has, but they waited till she was 16, even longer even.
as i say below
only really works when the youngest is 18
Judge is 6 years older than me. I'm like a toyboy, or something
a crap toyboy, if that makes things any better?
probably as in you are kind of generationally gapped and would have totally different terms of reference in your lives.
depends on the lower age though, as in a mid twenty year or older old going out with someone 15/16 is a bit strange i'd say
is a good rule of thumb
i think that only properly works when the youngest is over 18 though
I once saw a clinically obese chick's erotic slideshow. In the style of Disney's Aladdin. She was the princess.
It was not good.
someone I knew for a while but always rejected her advances, there's a 4 year difference, she's now 18 (I'm 22) and still very keen. I just feel weird about it.
18 is a rocky age. My 'wild' days are coming to an end at a time when hers are just beginning.
Poor bastard. I'm 24 and mine are just getting started!
Eh? Wild days coming to an end at 22?
Main considering at this point is more likely about if she's going to Uni or something and you've finished.
It's not a great idea to get into a relationship with someone who's about to go to Uni simply 'cos it's a time when she'll be going to new places and meeting new people and will probably get more out of it if she isn't always thinking about her boyfriend waiting at home.
In my first year of Uni I knew a guy who was in a long-term relationship and he'd spend most of his weekends going to see her and save all his money for rail fares etc. - I think it actuallyh stopped him from enjoying Uni to the full.
I'm no longer a student and can't go on the piss for days on end while shes just starting uni as has that whole 4 year booze/drugs fest ahead.
I'm not getting to that boring point in life where you worry about all your kitchen appliences being the same colour.
when I met Mr Slicky I was 17, him 21. We both did the wild days or whatever together, although I went off to uni so it was a bit different I suppose.
Answer - no problem!
If she actually 'seems' younger than you it'll be less of a problem than if you're both at a similar level of maturity.
Less of a problem if she seems younger?
I would have said more...
Yes. So would I. Indeed I meant to do so and mis-typed. I'll try again:
"If she actually 'seems' younger than you it'll be more of a problem than if you're both at a similar level of maturity".
and the age.
i'm generally very open minded about this sort of thing, though.
15 & 21 = dodgy, for obvious reasons. 16 & 22 = fine.
i don't think i could date anyone older than 28 or so. i knew someone who was 29 when i was 18 very briefly and i didn't have a problem with it, but he was very freaked out by it.
doesn't mean it's bad, but i wouldn't hear about it and not think 'oh, that's a bit odd'
I'd agree with that.
before it becomes too weird
so long as the people involved don't think it's weird, and it's not illegal and no one is getting taken advantage of, then it's all good.
also in all of these situations i have been thinking of the girl as the younger..
i can see why, but i wouldn't personally. i guess possibly because a lot of people i know were doing that kind of thing.
another thing, in relationship to the 18/29 thing, when i was 18 and dating a 26 year that wasn't an issue at all. i guess those 3 years made a difference or something.
i just fucking hate most people my own age really!
i can see why older men find that appealing
that's more worrying than the age gap
to be fair.
then what will i be?!
which would be a shame
please don't become one of those middle aged women who still sound like an angry teenagers
nobody wants to see that
So far it sucks. Good Luck.
30 at the moment.
But then, I can't really imagine being with anyone younger than me, maybe a year... but no more.
I'm not sure it's a big deal once you're over 20 really. Unless we're talking really silly age gaps... like... being with guys who are ready to die.
A lot of this thread has been wrongly focused on young girls who go with older men. What about those of use who sleep with middle aged women for their money?
25 years is my upper limit in this instance. Maybe 30 if she's really fucking loaded and doesn't have any suspicious children.
for some gay lovin'?
I don't think I meet the requirements for Financial Homosexuality thus far. Their union is a bit militant about that sort of thing...
I mean I'm 24 and I imagine on the whole I'd be interested in people aged from around 21 to 27.
But it really does depend on the person rather than the age. If I met an 18 year old or a 35 year old and we got on well enough then I think either'd be perfectly 'acceptable'.
I think the issue of 'too much' only comes into consideration if issues of incompatability arise (i.e. if because of your age your after different things in life) or where someone's exploting their younger (or indeed older) partner for their own selfish gain.
As long as your motives are 'good' and you both get on (and it's legal obviously) then I don't really believe there is a 'too much'.
I don't think age gap matters in the slightest if two people are able to get on and can relate. There's no reason in the slightest that age should dictate relationships. It's an artificial idea that couples should only be formed by people who are similar, theoretically the same as saying people should only form relationships within their own race, class or cultural groups.
as long as both people involved are happy, then where's the harm? unless one person is being severely taken advantage of on account of their naivety (i mean both the young, and the old people, flattered that someone would pay any interest in them, LOL.), or something, it's not really a problem.
restricting people to age groups is a bit like restricting people to race, or class. meh.
There are a lot of hang-ups expressed in this thread.
I'm 19, my girlfriend is 16, I'll be 20 before she's seventeen so for a while it'll be 16 - 20. Couldn't give a shite, to be honest. Anyone who says anything is in a less desirable position than me.
I don't see the issue really, as long as it's legal. I do find it a bit odd the way that often younger girls are attracted to quite older guys, but that's probably only odd/annoying because it means there's less to go around (excuse the wording there) but really, in the long term it's a good thing! So...meh.
8 year olds...
age is completely not an issue. Why should it be? Just because it is percieved by others as "a bit strange" should not mean that two people who get on well and are happy with each other should feel that they are not allowed to be together because of age. pah.
Why are we still up Peevee?
because of the thought about one being say 6 when the other was 20 or whatever. I guess it's natural for it to seem a bit odd but if people are happy then meh.
I personally don't think I'd go for someone much older, as I enjoy conversations about stuff like, I dunno silly things, children's TV or whatever. I think it'd be odd not having those sort of reference points in a relationship but I wouldn't think someone my age going out with someone of say 30 was weird for more than about 5 minutes.
about the generation gap. I find i get that even with people two or three years older than me, and it is odd, but i wouldn't scrap the whole idea of having a relationship with someone older than me just because of that. It's a very small part of any relationship, and if you've found someone who you find interesting/funny/attractive, i think it would be a bit foolish to disregard them because they never watched "round the twist" as a child! :P
i dont really know if that made sense. Up because i forgot to go to sleep! Now you've reminded me though...bed...
who didn't watch Round The Twist
sing me the theme tune during the secksing
God, it's late isn't it. Night.
that's what i was trying to stop myself imagining.
then i didn't say it.
have you ever, ever felt like this
really matters are the people involved.
...for some reason I only attract girls of the 17-20 bracket. Often incredibly fancy girls of this bracket. And I steadfastly refuse to 'grow-up' or 'mature' so I seem to be fucked.