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i drink alcohol in a pub everyday afterwork usually alone. do i have a problem?
in that you have no friends
you are merely British
If you still feel like drinking, then revise my answer to 'yes'.
"I pop into pubs on my own a bit, just to get out of the house, at the awkward time where an evening hasn't begun but the cafes are closed."
yeah, that's basically it. i hate my flat more than i can say, really .. so i try to avoid it. but i'm not really subjected to any social interaction either at work or at home ... which is why i get drunk alone all the time. bah.
If you start drinking for breakfast, you may have a problem. But even then you might also not.
Yeesh. Behaviour is so self-censored these days, it's sickening.
I think the spectrum of behaviour is too often miscategorised as a problem. I think it only becomes something that could fall under the bracket of problematic alcoholism when it starts to affect day-to-day function in a negative way. Mr having-a-drink-after-work could not be more normal if he tried.
Has he stolen a car and driven into a lampost while drunk? No. Has he woken up the the street, late for work, days on end, and lost his job? No. That's the point at which alcoholism requires treatment, in my opinion. When drink starts to take over.
I don't think mild dependency is anything to worry about even if that's what this is. I don't think alcoholism often even comes from a slow increase in what you drink, but from some kind of psychological predisposition that leads to a lack of control over one's actions.
You are right in that it takes many forms.
losing control and letting the drink take over is a problem, not just drinking per se.
If he's got a serious problem with alcholol, it will only get resolved on his own terms. All you can do is be there for him.
have a good talk to him about it. He may not be there yet but he is heading towards it. Find out first of all though if he feels he needs any help or advice. If an addict is unwilling to help themselves they can be a huge waste of the time and energy of others.
JacobJones, it's when you stop going to pubs as much and sitting in every night with a large carryout that you'll get problems. Although sitting in with a carryout means you can drink more booze more regularly.
not alone. You are a sad lonely alcoholic.
think it's directed at me. but how can you drink socially? that's nonsense.
you're 17, and you know very little of adult life.
Going to the pub on your own, and sitting with a book and a pint, is not only perfectly acceptable but often infinitely preferable to going with others.
glad to hear that. i do that probably 4 evenings a week
I feel too self concious to ever get drink. do i have a problem?
You have a problem then, but it's not necessarily an alcohol problem.
yeah, fair enough
she is hot and she is right.
alcoholism is just a state of depending on alcohol. not necessarily having problems in life from it.
however, even at such a minimum definition it is a hazard, increased chance of liver trouble etc.
what happens when you can't have a drink?
as organisms, and physical objects we can only really respond to smooth curves, not jagged drops.
"when you dont feel alright until you've had a drink"
she would know a little i'd say - my dads an alcoholic
It's social anxiety.
Or the wrong friends - are people who make you nervous and/or bored the right people to be partyign with?
There's nothing wrong with you at all.
your biggest problem is that you don't like your living situation, rather than anything to do with alcohol. you don't want to go home so you go somewhere else...
Only having a giggle love ;)