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look weird and lonley?
look .... yeah..?
The loneliness of the long distance gig-goer
Done it millions of times. Experiences vary - highlights for me include embarrassing dancing at the Royal Albert Hall to Belle & Sebastian and meeting 2 cool kids from New Jersey at the Knitting Factory in New York watching Tom Vek. After this we went to a club that stayed open until morning to watch him DJ, followed by borrowing some locals bicycles and riding around them in a drunken state at about 7am. If I'd have stayed home, I wouldn't have met such cool people.
I just go anyway. But I don't find it that enjoyable hanging around with no-one to talk to.
not exactly obviously, but the sentiment
going to one on my own tomorrow night probably, and this would be the first time (not including at festivals when ive watched bands on my own, i dont think that counts though) im not sure im looking forward to it? i dont see a problem with it as such, i just think im going to end up feeling a bit uncomfortable/depressed...?
if you're friends are too boring to want to go, screw it. doesn't mean you should miss out right?
I've done it, but I don't like it.
If it's loud/noisy/danceable music, or something that you can sing along to, it's going to be more fun going with people you know. The guy dancing on his own never looks cool.
But if it's a quiet, muffled folk singer or something like that, or a more intimate gig, sometimes it's more fun (although maybe 'fun' is the wrong word, perhaps just better in general) on your own.
But I'm going to see Final Fantasy at the Union Chapel and Patrick Wolf at the Electric Ballroom on my own soon, both of which I'm looking forward to immensely
I'd go with friends if I was at home (Glasgow), but seeing as I know noone down here I'm happy to go alone
I hate having to convince other people to go somewhere and then not being entirely sure they will enjoy it. Luckily I have some mates who are music nerds like me, so that's okay most of the time.
Since I'm rather small I do want to be there early, which alone is kind of awkward, especially at smaller gigs. If it's jam packed it doesn't matter really because you can't really see whose with whom anyway, but smaller gigs I'm a bit more self-conscious. Not that anyone really thinks "Oh look that sad little fucker with no friends", but oh well.
Films I'm more self-conscious about than for example theatre or gigs, as a film runs for about a month, so you have like 30 chances to drag someone along, haven't you? Then again, if you've got nothing to do and there's a film you're not sure any of your mates would fancy paying so much money for, why not?
Enjoyed the show, was definitely some fun times! Not the most packed i've ever done but got to drink with Euros till 2:00 so thats gotta be worth it!
I was sitting down at the front when Euros was on too, pretty much at the centre with black afro next to Laura from Das Wanderlust. We were probably pretty much sitting next to each other.
I don't think there's much to be embarrased about by going on your own. Certain gigs, eg Sigur Ros & Andrew Bird, I didn't really want company/distractions/people talking in my ear anyway, so it was just fortunate I ended up on my own anyway.
So yeah, it's cool by me. Usually more fun to have people around you for more dancey stuff but it's not crucial to have fun yourself.
I tend to go with a friend most of the time but I don't have a problem going alone. I am quite shy, though, so I do feel a lot more self-conscious by myself. It's still quite fun to forget about everyone else and just go enjoy yourself on your own.
if it's a really small gig, like 50-100 people, with long changeovers, lots of standing around, etc then I can imagine it would be easy to feel self-conscious. Any bigger, then surely you're just a part of the crowd? It might be dull, but get there just before the band(s) come on or check out the merch or hang around outside or talk to someone or whatever.
Honestly, I don't care much either way, though I'm less likely to catch the unknown support if I'm alone. Anyway, since I've been on DiS, I've rarely been to a gig alone.
I think it's a bit like watching films....it's always safer watching them on your own, not polluting it with worries that the person you brought/dragged isn't enjoying it, or having someone whinge etc etc.
but then if there's something you're all gonna fuckin love no matter what then that's obviously great
It's slightly serene and gives it the feeling of ceremony for me, for no apparent reason. I like going to shows with people, but since it's hard to find people who listen to my sort of music (none of my friends), if I were to make sure I never went to a show alone, I'd either be even more broke for buying two tickets to any show, or barely go to any.
Though its a pleasant novelty having company, but I do enjoy the freedom of deciding when I want to leave.
- according to Last FM
- mostly bymyself
- although I have met quite a few people at gigs, and I like to chat to friends after the show, I generally prefer to stand by myself in a place where I can see and hear properly (I can think of a few exceptions)
Let us get on thing straight though once and for all: the uncool people at gigs are not those who go alone, but those who stand near the front in groups and chat to their friends during the performance. Seriously these people should have been drowned at birth.
a) Not a great deal of my mates like going to gigs, b) the ones that do are often poor and can't afford it (I've ended up paying for a few tickets for friends when I know they love the band as well and have zero cash)
Also been to festivals on my own, as even less mates of mine like festivals. Thats probably odd.
..I'm going to see Future of the Left at ULU on my own on tuesday
always feel bored, conspicious and think my feet ache I should just go home, rarely enjoyable, started to bother less and less, still seen some amazing shows that I wouldnt have otherwise
it's about a 1hr30min train journey which costs €30, plus €25 for the ticket, and beer and food on top of that. I've been trying to find people that are interested for weeks, but with little success, so i think i'm going to be going on my own. It will be amazing though, right? And totally worth it? Reassure me please.
was that ok ? i've not seen them myself but from what i've heard it should be fab
Foals @ the astoria on st patricks day last year i was there on my own. right on the corner of the balcony next to the VIP area
British Sea Power @ Koko just after DYLRM? got released i was also there on my own.
plenty of times at festivals i've got seperated/moved forward from my mates/they've moved forward from me. arcade fire, foals, maps, sigur ros amongst others and they've all been awesome times.
when you're with friends at a gig and you see somebody on their own, do you think 'what a sad bastard?'
well you might if you're a cock, but i think most people generally accept that going to gigs alone doesn't mean you're a smelly sociopath with no friends.
I tend to spend quite a while on my own at festivals so thought it wouldnt be a big deal and ended up going to one on my own. It was weird !! Not the the best idea, though I am going to see Neil Young on my own in the summer. I'm in my thirties and alot of my friends have got married and that so it's not always easy to find people to go to gigs with. It's better than missing out.
gigs alone = better than gigs with 1 or 2 others who are just not that arsed/ into the band. any day of the week.
but it's rare that I can coax people out to gigs these days espescially out of town ones I think I've been to like 70% of the I've been to this year by myself.
went to the Transgressive Roadshow in Leeds...but then that was a pretty pretentious gig anyway so I don't think looking awkward made me seem out of place!
But I'd rather look like a loner having a little bop in the corner than not be there! That said if there's anyone i know there they should come say hello so I don't look like a loner! ;')
It's going to be WELL hot in there. Looking forward to it, though.
You don't have to worry about making a fool of yourself in front of people you know.
yes, everyone's looking at you and laughing because you look unbelievably lonely and sad. Go home and kill yourself now.
went to see the Gallows on my own, looked like an idiot but I drank till I didn't care!
as long as you drink a lot, its always worth it! + you nearly always meet people who you wouldnt have otherwise! being my yourself is a shit reason not to go to a really good gig - brainless!
was awesome. met a couple of lovely people.
took a hipflask full of tot.
ended up with the guy i went to see buying me a martini.
pretty swish overall.
go it alone.
Because I do feel a little self-conscious on my own whilst nothing is going on. But I go to lots of gigs on my own. I'm seeing Gang Gang Dance on my own on Monday, everyone I've asked has just flattly refused to go with me!
as none of my friends fully share my music taste, or have families etc. I went down to London from Leeds on my tod to see The Jesus Lizard the other week, it was fantastic, got chatting to a couple of cool folks beforehand who'd come down from Birmingham, good times!
in the time between intervals and change overs on your tod?
Stare in to space.
Watch the next band set up, appraise their equipment.
I would never go to a gig alone, when I go together with friends then we often seperate, but you know that you're not alone, which is quite comforting.
Btw, even this is not really suitable: I found a new band called Official Secrets Act and I really can recommend it!
do me a favour... stop mentioning them...
It's one of my most dreaded occurrences though. Don't know why. It makes me feel socially squeamish.
but I have once or twice if I've really wanted to see the band...
it's fine once the band is on, but the inbetween bits are not fun if you don't have anyone to talk to.
there DIS should set up a one-gig only dating service for lonely gig-going nerds...like pop one-night stands...
I go to a lot of gigs alone cos my boyfriend has horrible taste in music.
Interpol and Junior Boys both highly enjoyable, always a bit awkward when you first turn up but once you've been to the bar and the band's on it's no different to being with mates most of the time. I went to see Battles alone as well 'cos Fuck Buttons were supporting at Astoria and got absolutely hammered which made for brilliant finding-my-way-home times. Love the idea of a lonesome gig-goers service, you could have Lonely Hearts-esque e-pages and everything.
I actually really enjoy it... Get completely absorbed by the gig and don't have to worry about whether short people I'm with can see! I usually try and have a book for the wait before but it's quite hard to read under rotating blue green and red lights! Have had some great conversations with randomers though... I work in a record shop so get recognised quite a lot which is nice! As snobby as it sounds I prefer leaving on my own with my thoughts in my head until I can process the gig on the journey home as opposed to making vaguely flippant comments about how great it was while walking out!
(It was a band t-shirt tbf)