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Is it ever acceptable and/or enjoyable?
Sometimes to question two.
Hope that clarifies everything.
most of the gigs I go to, I go to knowing that even if I go on my own I've a good chance of knowing someone there. So I sort of cheat.
I'd rather kill myself than do this.
and everyone was busy, you wouldn't go?
That is madness.
this would make me even more depressed making me even more likely to kill myself. It's non-starter really.
you might as well kill yourself now, if that's your attitude.
(but, like, don't actually do that eh!)
I like it.
None of my friends even remotely have the same taste in me. I enjoy myself.
I went to see This town needs guns and Jonquil on monday on my own. As there wasn't a massive amount of people there, I did feel a bit of prat, particularly as I was there much too early. I always get there too early.
Better than not going at all tho, innit?
Jeff Lewis few weeks back.
Loved it. Got right to the front which i'd never do with friends.
Felt a bit awkward between bands but fuck it. Who cares.
If it's the only way to see a band, to not go just because you have no company would be silly.
You will definitely care less about this kind of thing as you get older.
unless as you grow older you become a pathetic needy fool.
No, everyone there will turn and laugh as you walk in. You'll be the subject of relentless mockery during the support bands and then you'll be dragged up on stage just before the headline slot and ritually strangled to death with a guitar lead in front of the assembled hipster hordes.
Sometimes to part two. I went to see Low in April and it was (inevitably) a great concert but it was kind of depressing and boring waiting around in the long period between the support and Low coming on.
it's quite bad if it's not busy and you have to stand about between bands not knowing where to look or put your drink down, but definitely better once you get to stand at the front and not be distracted by a friend or worried about dancing.
last time i actually had a conversation with someone.
and yes. If I waited for people to go to gigs with me, I'd have been to a fraction of what I've been to. It's nice to go with other people, but it doesn't really matter to me.
because I am about three time the age of your average gig goer, I often have pangs of self-doubt about these things
am I a two headed boy, etc.?
I have concluded this: there are those who are secure, there are those who are insecure, but when the lights go down, the most insecure is not anyone in the audience, it is the guys who are under the spotlights.
Nothing will stop me enjoying good music, and the day I have to drag along someone who does not want to be there will be the day I stop going.
Honestly, once you are in the habit going alone is not an issue.
I'd always rather go with a mate but I won't NOT go to something I want to see if there's nobody in my peer group to go wit (and this happens a lot since, like yourself, I'm usually the oldest person at a gig unless the band's parents are there, and there was actually a recent case where I was older than the band's parents!)
spen alot of time pretending to text people, dunno why I bother rarely enjoyable especially the train home
pretend to text people when i'm by myself at gigs.
the busier it is, the better it is, but when you go see a band at the brudenell that draw about 10 people, you look pretty stupid sat in the corner of a massive room pretending to text whilst your beer goes flat and you have to watch a big group of friends across from you have loads of fun
Why doesn't someone arrange a thing on here where like-minded-music people meet up for gig-age? Hmmmmm?
like a lonely hearts club, but for lonely gig-goers.
No sex pests, please.
this could work.
I went to a gig with a stranger off a board once. It was good, and much better than it would've been going alone.
although that was probably because the band (Arcade Fire) were just so amazing I forgot about everything.
Before they came on stage I was desperately lonely and realised just how much other people at gigs get on my nerves.
I hate it intensely
It's a gig - not a meal or a chat in the pub....a gig!
One of the problems at gigs is people knowing each other.
MORE strangers at gigs please.
Not had a bad time yet.
Lots of small talk interspersed with frantic heavy petting.
I was not impressed.
I nearly always go to gigs by myself cos the few friends I have think that buying the latest Kaiser Chiefs or Coldplay in "cutting edge" music.
I always feel a bit "sad" before a band comes on because they seem happier (and I "mock" text) but then when the band comes on people with frields really piss me off when they constantly talk through stuff. Tossers.
as long as it's a good gig.
Going out of your way to attend a gig by
yourself that turns out to be utterly bollocks is highly depressing.
Enjoyable? Not in my experience.
because no one wanted to go with me/was in the country.
i dont mind it. Its nice to have someone to talk to at times, but its not really a big deal, being on your own is alright.
who plays drums in a trash metal band, but was also a classically trained violinist.
i went to see million dead on my own.
got there (quite punctually) at about 8 and then found out they weren't due on til half midnight.
that wasn't the best 4 and half hours i've ever spent.
we are scientists at the medicine bar in birmingham. Did get to have a bit of a conversation with both Keith and Chris though.
I did however miss my train home by AGES.
Going to gigs on own = Good
Staying in train station all night on own = BORING AND YOU CANT SLEEP COS YOU MIGHT GET RAPED
and so on and so forth
but yes its good.
sometimes you meet people, sometimes you don't.
but, either way, i've almost always had a better time at gigs where i went on my own then with other people.
I do find it more difficult since the smoking ban. When standing on my own was easier. But, i guess i meet more people outside now, so it balances out
doing it for vampire weekend in a couple of weeks.
but guillemots i went to myself and i met some 40 year old suede fan, and it was fucking great
I'd rather go to a gig myself than drag someone along who doesn't really want to be there.
Other added advantages:
* you can go where you want, when you want
* no chance of people shouting something in your ear half way through your favourite song
* you can jump about like a prat and care not about being judged by the folk you're with
* you don't get "pick me up a ticket and i'll pay you in drips and drabs over the next 6 months, yeah?"
The only person i ENJOY going to gigs with is my boyfriend. Aside from that i'd rather go myself.
WARNING: mastering the support slot skipping is tricky...i've missed the first parts of headline sets because of this and i've also been stuck watchin ALL the supports.
I like metal and prog and most touring gigs here tend to be on weekdays, so i dont even bother trying to rope friends into coming along to see some band they've never heard of on a tuesday night.
One advantage is I tend to get closer to the front, if not right on the rail, when I go on my own.
so yes its enjoyable.
I dont get the concept of "acceptable" though.... life is not a high school popularity contest.
I'd say about 90% of the gigs I go to I go to alone - I just can't find friends who want to / can go.
Having said that, I wish I wasn't as shy, so I could have a chat to people in between sets. It gets well boring whilst you're waiting around.
Is there an etiquette to striking up conversations with people at gigs? If someone came up to me and started chatting I don't think I'd have a problem with it, unless they were annoying/trying to hit on me. Then what do you do? They're like the only people you know there - you can't just run away!
But expecting to be buddies for the whole eening is not. On the odd occasion I have gone alone I have rocked up seconds before the headliner has come on, and left the minute they have finished. I just can't stand the standing around pretending to text for half an hour between the bands.
Odd, because i am a man who loves a pub or a cinema on my own. Just not a gig.
It can however, be pretty boring and I tend to drink twice as fast when I have no one to talk to.
That is all
You need to expand further on this - you can't just leave that story there !!!!
It's fine really, not like I talk to people during the band anyway, and there's normally someone I know at the gig anyway.
ive been to 2 gigs alone. ash & lou barlow.
lou barlow wasnt so bad as that was at dingwalls in camden. ash at brixton was a bit rubbish as inbetween bands your standing in the crowd with no-one to chat too like nobby fukin no mates!
but very rarely when i'm at home. it's ok. sometimes i have a great time, sometimes i don't. the latter usually happens when the venue is half empty..
mainly due to lazy arse mates, but it's fine, like going to the cinema on your own.
I prefer company, and I'll meet with a random ahead of going on my todd (apart from a couple of bands), but I'll generally buy a ticket then wrry about who I'm going with.
Having said that, I'm in the habit of always buying 2 tickets and then offering one as the gig approaches (I'm about to do this with Oxes at the Luminaire). I have enough non-music-mindedfriends who like to pop along as a novelty for this to work.
drinking loads due to not having any chittle chattle goin' on...
I'm just that boring/unfriendly
Is actually making me want to go to gigs alone!
i went to a glasvegas gig on my own and was like totally the coolest person there. Fact.
i actually did it once, and it wasn't great. mostly the between band awkwardness.