One of my best friends recently torched our friendship by way of several events, including using the word rape, being homophobic, racist and then being annoyed that i called him out on all of the above. Then he went and acted like a dickhead towards one of my wife's best friends.

SO.

I haven't said anything to him. I am now stuck between just not giving him the time of day and ignoring him OR going to speak to him and telling him what i think of him.

Regale me with stories of pals/non-pals being shitheads and deserving a good fucking talking to and you not doing it OR actually doing it.