to keep the peace and make feel better about themselves and stuff.

yep, that's right - its another thread about stuff that is bothering me at the moment.

the backstory -

my mum got pregnant at 16. now, back in the day this was not cool and her parents basically made her feel like shit, told her to either abort it or put it up for adoption.

my mum took the latter option - and she told me once this story about going to the hospital on her own, having the baby, then going to an office on her own and signing that human over to the authorities. this shit hits me right to my very core, maaaaaaan.

anyway, I don't think (rightly or wrongly) that my mum has ever forgiven her folks for a)making her make that incredibly difficult decision on her own and b) fucking having to deal with the having and signing over all on her own. I think she is pretty pissed in fact, and this has been bubbling under for maybe 40 years.

Anyway, I was at my grannys yesterday and we were nattering about shit and I said 'I have something important to say to you, you ready for it'
she said yeah.

So, I told her that I understand that it was a less informed time and what have you, but I thought for the sake of making peace and putting shit to bed, she might want to consider writing my mum a letter talking about this. not accepting blame or whatever, but just maybe addressing it and saying she understood how tough it must have been for my mum, barely a kid, handing over a kid and stuff.

she thought about it for a bit, but basically she wasn't digging it. I love my Granny more than anything, but maaaaaan, come out of your comfort zone a little, you know. make an effort and you COULD make someone a little happier in life. your own Daughter, ffs!

so yeah, this is something that is bothering me a bit. maybe I'm being selfish expecting her to say 'yeah, you're right, get me a pen and paper'

dunno what any of this means, really.

just basically, I think fundamentally that people should make an effort sometimes to be nice and do the right thing.

I have said too much, but that is golf.

Thoughts?

no mum jokes, please!