Some people buzz about buzz bands. Some people write about how to get a (possibly your) band heard, and most of that stuff never works. There are some really good bands that just cant get arrested.
As no one seemed to write about their experiences on the fringes (that I can find), I went ahead and wrote something myself. Take a read. Take the piss. Its fine either way. But its also a forum and you can tell others how you cope with being ignored...

http://www.sunsetgraves.com/blog/keep_on_trying_without_being_that_trying_person_who_tries_too_hard/