either in terms of graphic content or swearing or whatever?
but I don't play anything that is excessively sweary. No Danny Brown, for example.
I don't play harsh noise wall stuff when the kids are around either. upsets them.
I have some very sweary stuff and some very noisy stuff. Doesn't bother her at all, really not sure what to do when she starts picking up the language though. Thinking about it, they are as likely to pluck the single word "fuck" out of a song as they are any other word, and traffic noise is probably worse than a lot of noisy music. Think I'll just carry on until my girlfriend tells me off, then it ends.
i didn't give it a moment's thought when she was younger, but my eldest is now old enough to be able to sing back songs she's heard. Don't really want her going into nursery singing "oh no they don't give a fuck about anybody else" etc
from the outro of The Man Don't Give A Fuck.
It was Elliott Smith the other week driving to school and there was a particular tune where there was a few expletives in a row, so I turned it down a little and had a look in the back where he was grinning like a Cheshire cat.
I had a vision of him saying something to one of his mates about the "And you think I ought to shake your motherfucking hand" line..
as a result, when I made mrs ccb a CD to play in the background at her school, i included "say yes" - forgetting that there's a 'shit' and a 'fucked-up' in the song
and thought number 2 was asleep (she was about 18 months at the time). BMFA came on and we switched it off after the first chorus (thinking better of it).
A couple of months later, we were eating dinner together and I'd taken my daughter's fork away (because she was throwing food around the place). I realised half way through a chat with the wife that I'd forgotten to feed her (daughter, not the wife), and apologised to her. She fixed me with a stare and said slowly '...ass...hool'. I struggled to keep it together to be honest.
I assume she got it from there - we never swear around them and they don't watch any films with bad language.
Not that exciting a story as it happens, but relevant all the same.
But my mum used to buy me CDs (Marshall Mathers LP was my first) with swearing and shizzle on. A woman in Asda tried to recommend that she didn't buy the album for me at the time but my mum just laughed and said it was fine.
except I did delete a Blowfly LP from my iPod just to be on the safe side
both from my kids and my wife (although the kids have enjoyed a bit of Godflesh, er more than can be said for my wife). there's so much minor swearing everywhere though it's very hard to police it totally. obvious example is we listen to a lot of Eels as it's good, uplifting, tuneful, etc but there's a fair bit of swearing. We tend to censor by coughing loudly at the appropriate moment, which is the only way out really if you suddenly realise it's about to come. Wouldn't work so well for "It's A Motherfucker", mind.
I think it was the first EP... if memory serves... but they do like my "t shirt with the flames on it" (Streetcleaner obv)
Training them well.
So I played my tots 'Kim' by Eminem on repeat for an afternoon until they understood that its just words and words can mean anything. You can prove anything with facts and bollacks like that
After they proudly put down 'fuck' when playing Scrabble with their parents and grandmother I realised it was futile.
I wouldn't play anything that was violent, mysogynistic or homophobic in front of them, but then I don't want to listen to that sort of thing anyway.
I'm not bothered about swearing anymore, and of course anything with swearing in is automatically their favourite. My son's three favourite songs at present are 'Oh Shit' by Buzzcocks, 'Evidently Chicken Town' by John Cooper Clark and 'I Know I Fucked Up' by Darren Hayman. He's not allowed to have copies for his iPod, but that's only because his mother has forbidden it.
I don't listen to 'my' music until the kids (0 and 4) are asleep. The oldest had virtually zero exposure to actual pop music until last week when we played him Gangnam Style.
that blew his mind!
now the kids are older (13 and 16), I suppose it would not harm them. It's more the husband I'm worried about!
I still don't like them looking at my ipod though because there's a few unsavoury title tracks in there, including band names. 'Fucked Up' and 'Fuck Buttons' just spring to mind. My husband calls my music tastes 'depraved' - I know time to call him ex I think :P
Had a similar incident with books lately. I stupidly was reading Games of Throne in front of said 16 year old daughter, she then took it up to start reading it. I'm afraid I said 'no, wait till you're 18'. I suppose I' m still protective about her, I don't know if it is a good thing ...
Seriously. You're worried about her reading the word fuck on your ipod?
.. I think it makes me uncomfortable, more than anything else.
I have been pondering for a while now the weight that the word 'mother' has been putting on my shoulders over the years.
There's an expectation of a certain behaviour where you are a 'mother' - I suppose self imposed or imposed by others.
I'm just starting to unravel the whole thing, it's going to take some time.
Once they were old enough that they had heard the words, Swearing is all about context. Waited a few years before playing particularly rude hip-hop songs.
(Because of the sexy bits, not because I was protecting them from black people.)
finding my dad's copy of the Ivor Biggun album (the one with "I'm a Wanker" on it) & saying "Wow dad, I didn't know you had that." He said "You can't listen to that, you're too young." I laughed & said "I've heard it loads of times at school already".
about how they played a load of Of Montreal to their child, and then the child was running round the playground singing "you're just some faggy girl".
That was a funny story.
As for me, I'd like to think that when I have kids, I wouldn't have a problem playing sweary music to them. Plenty more things I have to protect them from. Like Lostprophets (lol).
With my Mum in my car. She didn't really care even when I woke my brother up one morning with "Wake Up".
it was more a case of my parents being corrupted by my music than the other way around. Certainly neither of them had ever heard anything like "Sex Dwarf".
rather than the music I expose my daughter to
i used to put stickers over the parental advisory signs on albums
i still clearly remember sitting in the kitchen with my discman at maybe 14/15 listening to fred durst shout 'thats 46 fucks in this fucked up rhyme' as my mother prepared dinner thinking if only she knew!!
what a rebel