the reason i ask this is my friend was propositioned on a gay dating website by a man, asking how much he charged. i dont know how much he does charge but am wondering if you would consider selling yourself, or paying for sex?
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I would never pay
no point really...
I'd maybe whore myself out for enough $$$
1) No
2) I guess if they want to pay me, I'd let them.
it would depend on who with, surely?
if they were female, and attractive, and they offered money, then of course. If they were female and not so attractive but were offering serious cash then perhaps. If they were male, it'd have to be six figures.
Yes to the latter
I don't really see much wrong with it.
Do you accept buttons
as down payment?
what kind of buttons?
x
Fuck Buttons
^5
so that's what they are!
Some manky old ones I found
when I was robbing the wishing well
sold
(myself)
No
no and no.
If the latter was with someone I'd sleep with anyway..
..then the money is a bonus. If they were yuck, I'd maybe kill them and steal their wallet?
This leads to an interesting question.
Asuming you're straight would you have gay sex with a guy for a million pounds, my friend said he wouldn't which seems mental to me.
id have sex with a guy for £100,000
^So would I.
It's only one bad experience (or not so bad, you never know I guess) and you get money that will make a significant contribution to the rest of your life, as long as your not careless with it.
yeah but i dunno how successful i would be at it
im gonna stop talking. i deleted my in depth thinking about this subject
1) no
it would feel like admitting defeat because I can't charm women with anything other than a fat wad of cash. True or not I'd rather not face that fact.
2) no, unless Ana Ivanovic was the one making the offer
I like answer number 2).
;)
Wouldn't you just say
'Oh it's OK, Ana. This one's on me.'?
Why make her pay? It's silly.
you get money
for something you would do anyway. win win
if she was offering to pay me
it would be churlish to say no. And she'd certainly get her money's worth
If she wants to pay I'd let her.
Not that she'd have any reason to, I'd let her do anything with me.
Just seems a bit odd
Turns something that could be quite nice into a business transaction.
a business transaction that is quite nice
^ precisely
Odd
Both odd.
I guess
I'm just too jaded and cynical.
no and no
when ugly fat millionaires
have attractive young girlfriends, are they essentially paying for sex?
yes
Pretty much, yes
Prostitution by any other name I would have thought.
it's an interesting one though
presumably you have to draw the line at the lady not really wanting to but doing it due to all the money, gifts etc.
but this could also apply to lots of less clear-cut situations
its more than just the sex though isnt it?
you probably have to put up with their whinging and shit
there have been lots of court cases
where payments have been exchanged and the couples involved have had to show love letters or other tokens to disprove that the relationship is based on a purely economic transaction (think there was a recent case)
what about those blokes
who keep buying drinks for girls in pubs until they give in and agree to have sex with them? Is that paying for sex?
WHAT PUBS?????
saucy ones
i kind of think it is
that's why rounds are best
i never accept a drink off a stranger, just because it means they want you to talk to them. even if they're attractive, i find it a bit unpleasant. is this uptight of me?
more or less yeah
although thats also to do with them getting drunk enough to agree to it
Oh for sure, it's a complex matter, but.......
I certainly see a lot of attractive twenty something pneumatic Barbie types around Sandbanks/Canford Cliffs with decaying old relics.
Decaying old relics with 5 figure watches and expensive German cars!
But then the vast majority of women
do tend to take a man's wage into consideration when deciding whether or not to marry him. In that Arrange Me A Marriage, it was a constant theme and treated as a completely fair stance to have. So by that logic, every one of the women who do that is a prostitute.
I remember that........
the thing is, it strikes me as something of a retrograde step in this age of sexual equality and opportunity for all.
Are men going to start demanding to see payslips before they agree to date women now?
It's all quite sad, I honestly couldn't care whether somebody I'm with is a barrister or a barista. Unless you're doing something seriously shifty like arms dealing or working in marketing, job/income will tell you precisely nothing about a person.
i'd feel like i was exploiting
somebody if i paid for sex so i'd lose my hard-on.
and yes to the second part if the price was right/depending on the person.
so you wouldnt want to exploit, but its ok to be exploited?
no
and no. i've even refused to have a taxi home the next morning paid for because i'd rather pay for the bus with my own money. might seem weird but if you think about it, i think it should make sense. but it's also different if it's someone you know obviously.
that's taking it a bit far i'd say
they're just being nice and paying for your taxi surely?
i know, but in my mind
the intention behind the offer doesn't really matter, it's still essentially the same thing
so if you pay for someone to get home the next day
thats a bad thing, rather than just being nice?
no, it's not a bad thing as such
don't listen to me, i should learn to keep my mouth shut about issues like this
no its interesting!
i can sort of see your point, but couldnt that be extended to other things too?
probably, what other things?
i dunno like them making dinner for you
or cooking breakfast or something, or even just a cup of tea, or a lift home
nah, don't think so
in my mind there is a big fat line that is crossed once there is an exchange of money
yeh
I wouldnt want to sell my body for sex
mainly because I won't get nearly enough to do my self-esteem any good + paying for sex is for loosers, I have had it enough to not skitz out over it but then again some people could argue they are paying for lessons... hmmmm
I've never paid for it but
i caught wind of the fact that my ex-girlfriend (who i split up with rather acrimoniously, which was entirely her fault) had said to my brother that she would pay £1000 to sleep with me again. I texted her the next day and told her that I had heard what she had said to my brother and jokingly suggested something could be done about it. I knew she would be getting short changed by the situation but seeing as i owed her £500, I joked that we might be able to meet half way and come to some sort of agreement. Anyway, this was all said in jest and was never mentioned again.....right up until I was feeling drunk and lonely in a pub one night and texted her and asked if she wanted to finalise the deal. I was absolutely hammered and really don't remember much about the rest of that night, but i do remember waking up feeling rather sheepish and weird and, regrettably, when i reminded her about our little illicit verbal agreement she just laughed and said i should have got it in writing. Still haven't paid her back the £500 though. Winner!
^ this just sounds fucked up and weird
It was.
It really really was.
jeeze
she must have really wanted it, eh?
Well...
When you've tried the best you don't really want to go back.
everyone has their price.
it's true.
cheers Ted
excellent reference
And you know this for a fact, do you?
Right-o.
How much is the pope?
if someone offered you ten million pounds for sex you'd have sex with them.
FACT.
not if they had AIDS
^The vast majority of people would.
Not everyone though.
I don't think I would
I guess we'll never know.
TEN MILLION POUNDS?!
TEN MILLION? i mean i dont know what id want to do with ten million, but i could buy all kinds of crazy shit with that, for doing something not all that bad. i mean plenty of people do demeaning jobs they fucking hate for far less money.
What if you were married?
i'm not sure how that would change anything.
One little white lie for a life of luxuary and a secure future for your kids.
"Daddy, how come we have so much more stuff now?"
"Well, son. I let a big fat man stick his dick in my bum."
It's a fair trade off
thats something that might affect it yeah
but im not married and i dont have a girlfriend. i guess it depends on whether you can put a monetary value on a relationship/whether the partner would be ok with it if you did want to. if i truly loved someone though i dont think i would, then when we broke up i would resent them forever
I think most people would turn a blind eye to their partner playing away for a share of £10m.
i guess so
and its not as bad as them willingly cheating either i dont think.
'zactly.
it'd never happen though so i don't have to think about it :D
But I'd feel really scummy
and I'd know I'd only got the money through whoring myself out. So totally not worth it.
yeah but i go back to the job thing
im sure loads of people do things that make them feel bad about themselves. we all regret stuff we have done anyway, just we dont have £10 million to cry into
I wouldn't do a job
that was, or was on a par with, having sex for money. What would I do with £10m? I'd have a nice house. I'd have a nice car. I'd still know I'd got it all from being used for sex. And I'd still get bored and stub my toe and stuff.
If I built an entire life on prostituting myself, I don't think I'd ever be able to enjoy it and it would haunt me for the rest of my life. So like I say, totally not worth it.
i guess it depends how much of a taboo you place on having sex for money
for me i think its fair enough if people are happy doing it, but obviously prostitution raises a whole load of issues.
I just think a comfortable life and being able to pursue whatever you want would probably be worth one unpleasant thing.
It's not just getting through an unpleasant thing, though
Or even if it's a pleasant thing. It's knowing you got that life by doing something pretty scummy. I wouldn't want that. £10m would only solve so many problems in the end. Having sex for money would create at least as many for me.
like prostitution
pends who
clicheguevara, I'd demand more.
how much for me?
just out of interest. not that i would. just wondering yknow. IM NOT GAY
In the spirit of Dischord
I'd pay no more than $10 and even then I'd most likely sack you off in favour of a Government Issue LP!
fair offer
£100'000 is my rate for guys.
Me and SHANDYHOLMES discussed it earlier in this thread (not about him paying me, he doesn't have that much money).
do you throw in some chat into the deal?
how much you got?
You mean get married to some one with a good job?