/how much she likes smoking.

I would instead start going out with someone who appreciated my smoking.

but i'd see it as a benefit these days. i dunno what i'd do if i didnt want to.

so I just lied and said that I had, it made smoking more fun anyway, with the whole covert operation surrounding it. She said it made her puke to think about it. Her current boyfriend smokes about 20 a day by my reckoning.

but y'know, if you don't actually want to stop smoking yourself then you probably won't manage it.

I would start and then I would stop, just to prove my love for her.

but I would not do it around them, if they didn't like it.

someone like that in the first place. maybe if we were married and my husband had a weak heart or something.

It doesn't bother me that much, though he's considerate and smokes outside or away from me in general. I don't like it but I also don't want to force him to stop, that's his choice.

But then I wouldn't get into a proper relationship with someone who clearly has a problem with it either.

I was seeing a guy for seven months who decided to give up smoking himself near the end of the relationship, he turned into a right proper twat about it. Reformed smokers are the worst.

Someone's attitude towards smoking would affect whether you get into a relationship with them or not? That's quite sad.

sorrycaps.
but it is, i hate seeign people trying to change thier boyfrined or girlfriend in silly trivial ways.
i have to put up with girls making their boyfrieneds buy stupid clothes
'dahling, youd look hott i nthis'

yuck

but i wouldnt ask them to stop, id just dissaprove and make it clear i didnt like it much, but its their choice really, and if i really liked them whether they smoke or not wouldnt be a deal breaker.

I wouldn't try and make a girlfriend start smoking and wouldn't expect her to try and stop me.

That said, if it bugged her I'd take it as an extra incentive.

I reckon I would have perceived it as an attack on my lifestyle in a more general sense, and probably would have run a mile. I would have thought that this person would also have a problem with my drinking, might be upset by my relationship history. Basically, if this person can't cope with me having the odd ciggie, they're a bit clean cut to cope with me in general.

I don't think I was really ready for a serious relationship then anyway.

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If I was going out with someone I'd prefer that they didn't smoke, but I probably wouldn't ask them to stop unless it was someone I'd think about spending the rest of my life with. I don't really want to see someone I love die in a horrible way.

If someone didn't want you to do something around then that's fair enough and I think I'd respect that but I don't feel they'd have any right to tell me what to do when they weren't around.

*bar sleep with other people, obviously

If I really liked someone who doesn't smoke then obviously I can see how it would bother them. And frankly, I probably need to cut down anyway, so maybe I'll look for a non smoker just for an excuse to save my poor throat/lungs.

This is a new low, even for me.

and my current beau, but i think i probably should as i keep getting a cough that sounds suspiciously like i'm dying. oops.

assuming I was really keen on her, which I'd like to think I would be if I was in a relationship. I don't smoke fags and only smoke weed out of boredom or with friends, and I could quite easily knock it on the head if I had the incentive.

if that counts...

...which is kind of pathetic, but hey, i've quit for almost 6 weeks!

{and he's still not my boyfriend}

i have had boyfriends in the past who have wanted me to quit who i certainly cared about wayyyy more than i do this guy, but i guess i wasn't ready to quit then. i kind of wanted to anyway this time.

I mean surely it's a bit much to expect someone to quit just because their bf/gf has asked them too. I know I couldn't quit unless I actually wanted too and was committed to quitting; you've got to believe in what you're doing to do it.

Also there's a bit of an issue of personal liberty here; it's somewhat nannying (for want of a better word) to try and get someone to quit if they don't want to. People should be free to do as they please, within reason.