Maybe I should've read the whole thing, but it annoyed me so I stopped.
Anyway, a question to anyone who has an opinion or insight into these things who'd care to state them to help my bafflement. This is a massive generalisation so please don't get offended, but it does seem to be pretty commonplace.
When a long term (or even short) relationship ends and it was apparent that the couple were in love, how is that men seem to be immediately thinking about the next woman? Rather than taking some time to grieve over the loss of that relationship or whatever needs to be done to sort your head out.
Someone I work with came in this morning an announced that his wife and partner of 18 or so years is divorcing him. It was sort of on the cards because she has some deep rooted issues that keep reappearing and hasn't been well for a long time, but he was suicidal this weekend after she told him.
And within 15 minutes of us discussing it today, he was talking about "the next woman".
HUH?
probably a way of dealing with it
positioning yourself within the possible transience of love and emotion, adopting the 'plenty more fish in the sea' approach and evoking several dead philosophers and essentially boiling them down to 'so it goes'
well, maybe
^i reckon this
men seem to cope
with the loss of such a big thing by perhaps finding someone to take care of them emotionally? i find men tend to be more dependant emotionally in a relationship because they can attatch to the woman like no male friend. female friends can bond and have a sort of "platonic" relationship. well, it may be a generalisation, but my dad remarried first anyway.
You are right, that is a massive generalisation.
It took me about 3 years to get over my ex-girlfriend. I wasn't in the slightest bit interested in any other girl for a long time.
I'm with you
I like a god ld break and sometime inbetween relatonships.
A few girls I know go jumping right into the next relationship afe a break up, so I don't thik its bo/girl devide kinda thing.
yeah this is true.
girls are equally capable. my best friend hasn't been single for over 9 years because all of her 1yr relationships have overlapped by a few days. whereas i am the complete opposite.
hence it being called "Manning Up"
& Growing a pair.
or a pear, depending if you have an alotment or not.
bitches ain't shit
It's the crucial final phase
in how men get over breakups.
Phase 1: Sitting around in your 'sweat pants'
Phase 2: Getting drunk and going to a strip club
which helps with...
Phase 3: Picturing yourself with other women
*Men are from Mars, Women are from Broadmoor
At least we're on planet earth luv ;)
you say it like it's a good thing
and you say that like it's a bad thing?
pffft, alien women ftw
I don't understand you
get outta my thread
you can't cage me!
you're not worth caging!
now get out! and take your crap record collection with you when you go!
oh, so you and JohnM are double-teaming me, eh?
Mirri and JohnM,
sitting in a tree
K-I-S-S-I-N-G
not intentionally
and anyway, have you seen THIS:
http://www.drownedinsound.com/articles/3440621#r3446323
hahahahah :)
1986?
he'd have been, what, 29 then?
you're evil!
he started it!
on what basis?
(he was probably right)
he slagged me off for liking the twilight sad!
then i said "oh john" in that thread about the barely legal russian teens.
that's it!
you should probably call it quits then
:(
I seriously hate you guys
oh john
It's OK
I know you're just jealous you won't be as youthful looking and hirsute when you're 51.
oh john
oh john
>
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/42/74019803_d0893ce1e7.jpg
heh.
I've asked myself before if a guy would, you know, with a three or four breasted one.
I've decided I don't want to know the answer.
i've decided i want to tell you
yes
Yes, I was afraid that would be the case.
I hope I don't dream of four-breasted women from Mars tonight. I guess you're hoping you do!
could be worse
you could dream of four-moobed men from DiS tonight
that could still happen.
i'll report back tomorrow.
cheers nick! just what i wanted before bed.
np
Is tonight's football nearly done?
Views from the nightcrew? I took the guy out for ice cream today and he seemed very black and white about the whole thing.
But his head is also pretty fucked, in my opinion.
Back to the original question though - how/huh?
i just broke up with my boyfriend
and its not like this at all but that might be because i'm young.
Sorry to hear that love :(
It was sort of aimed at the boys though...
x
i meant my bf isn't like that
i shouldn't be talking to him about it probably :(
umm
yes, if it's still a fresh break up, it's probably best you have a bit of space before trying to be proper friends.