Sign In: or Sign Up! (forgotten password?)

Okay, so I asked the barmaid out

She has a boyfriend. The end.



  • Well done for trying.

    fucktherave take note.

  • :(

    but really, well done for actually doing it though

    • She was probably lying

      • ^mandatory post rejection process

      • that would make her a bitch

        so it wouldn't matter

        • A hot bitch

          so it would.

        • it wouldnt make her a bitch!

          its the kindest way to let someone down without making saying its anything to do with them, sint it?

          but im sure she did have aboyfirend zapsa. yr lovely.

      • At least she came up with a believable lie.

        At least she didn't say 'sorry my bosses on the European Space programme won't let me have any romantic or sexual liaisons'.

  • (})

    now you just have to get her to leave him and go out with you.

    • Apparently she really, really loves him

      She was very clear about that. I even asked - "Really, *really*?" Yes, really, really. She said she'd "give me a shout" if that changed though.

      • Haha the polite brush off

        expect a call when your 90 and the boyfriend has died

        • Just what I needed

          THANKS.

  • no worries, that's great you went for it!

    • Less optimism

      more pity. Thanks.

      • which bar, dare i ask?

        • Start The Bus

          • oh.

            i know i few of them on the bar. i have (sigh) 'history' with one of the barboys.

            • Rachel

              Her name was Rachel. Do you know Rachel?

              • i love how 1/3 of that sentence was made up of purely the word

                RACHEL.

                I do believe she is friends with him yes. i don't know her personally though. although she was (probably) there when i threw a drink on him. probably.

  • I did this on nye with a similar outcome

    cept I dunno why I did it lol

    • wild guess here

      because you wanted to go out with her?

      • I had never been to that pub before

        and I dont know what procceded to that point, note 'it was new years eve'

        • when i worked in a bar...

          regardless of what night it was... we'd easily get asked out a few times a night. by people we'd never served. It's not that uncommon.

          We are the 'messiah' to drunkards. we provide the alcohol. therefore we are seen as gods. this is the only reason i can think of.

  • It feels good when you get asked out and you've got a girlfriend.

    But my friend was in this position not long ago.

    Anyway. He told her he was leaving town soon and she wasn't happy about it. Soon she'd got rid of her boyfriend and they're going out soon.

    So its a happy ending. Unless you're her boyfriend. You'll win.

  • Now do a musical training up montage,

    hunt him down, DDT him and post pix.

    • we're going to need a montage!

      Show a lot of things happing at once,
      Remind everyone what’s going on (what’s going on)
      And in every shot you show a little improvement
      Just show it all or it will take to long
      That’s called a montage (montage)
      Ooh we want montage (montage)

  • so

    youre going to share a 6 pack with Jo tomorrow

  • I'll take you out next year

    we'll resolve the heartache.

  • MTFU

    If you give up as soon as they say they have a boyfriend youre never gonna get anywhere

  • She's probably reading this right now

  • done done and one to the next one done done...

    etc

  • You've inspired me Zapsta...

    I dig a bird that works in my local but i've been putting off asking her out cos I'm a big jessie but fuck it whats the worst that can happen? She might have a boyfriend, then so be it!
    Nae joy zapsta but fair play for having the balls to do so.

  • that's what you get for asking girls out when you have a massive spot on your nose

  • You've had the guts to do it.. maybe not the ideal answer

    but it's much better than you not having asked her out and it bugging you what her potential answer might have been.
    Now all you need is a new target!

  • I did this once

    She said she had a boyfriend. Then a few weeks later I was in the bar and she kept looking at me but I ignored her. Then the next day I was walking down my road in Kemp Town when she came up to me and said.. "You're the bloke who asked me out etc etc"

    Apparently she didn't have a boyfriend but was just nervous. She turned out to be a loony.

    Never will I do that again.

  • why didn't you find this out

    before asking her?

    • she might have thought he was trying it on

    • Bit lame, innit

      "erm, excuse me, do you know if you're friend has a boyfriend?"

      nah. He did the right thing. Suck it in and be bold

      • no you ask the girl

        not her friend

        • How is that different to just asking her out?

          "Hey, do you have a boyfriend?" isn't an innocent question.

          • you style out with

            cunning

            'Does your boyfriend mind you working here with all the sad pervs cracking onto you?'

            'I don't have a boyfriend'

            'I'm a sad perv, dinner?'

            • ^^ Obviously a bit of a SadPervPro.

            • :D

              Amazing!

            • That's excellent.

              Any ideas of a subtle way to ask if someone who had just started going out with someone a couple of months back still has a boyfriend?*

              *assuming she'd told you this in a general conversation sense, not in a "you having just asked her out sense" and it was basically the only conversation you've ever had with her about either of your personal lives and it'd be glaringly unsubtle if you were to bring the subject again out of the blue...

  • oh Zapsta :(

    but hey, props for trying, you'll get one in the end

  • The object of my affections

    also has a boyfriend.

    However, she isn't happy with him, so I'm trying to make sure I'm the person she runs to when it all goes tits up.

    • All I will say is

      Well done for trying. I think alot of ladies still prefer the old-fashioned approach to dating, as in, the man should make a move first. I don't know. But I kind of do. So well done
      ps. I used to be a bar maid, and you get used to guys drunkenly pinching your butt, making rude comments, asking you out, so perhaps she thought you were drunk or just a perve.

  • ....

    Hard luck mate. But it never works with barmaids. I was seeing one once, and decided to pop in and see her one evening at work. What happened? I drank a pint of gin, passed out on the bar and she refused to speak to me for about 4 months.