So I go into the refectory at work and someone works in and gives me the once-over (not the fullbody once over, just a definite slight rove). He's not unattractive, but I wince.
It's a bit embarrassing, non?
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Massive erection
That isn't a comment on your situation
but it could be.
everytime you get checked out
you build a building?
I wouldn't go that far
but I pitch a tent.
http://www.jellybabys.co.uk/images/rose-hang-tent.jpg
hard work!
You bet it is
you need to go play with the bananas
:D
Due to me natural scepticism
I always assume it's more a freak show at the circus kind of scenario. As such I do my best not to do anything weird. This often fails.
me too
what do I have on my face? is my first thought. do i have a stain somewhere on my clothes? etc.
This:
http://photos-g.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v65/42/27/829285214/n829285214_200462_2921.jpg
excellent
If you really like them, do you do two thumbs up?
No
That would look desperate
: )
Just a very pleased/surprised expression and one casual thumb, then.
one casual thumb, eh?
that's my normal reaction.
Not to mention insincere...
what i love about your pictures
is that you look exactly the same in each one, even when you're pulling a different expression. it's like you took 10000 pictures on the same day
with fear
i am not good with girls
Yup.
Not so much fear as complete and utter terror.
oh... my... fucking... god..........
..................
thats in reference to the thread not my reaction to being check out by an inferior being
actually not an inferior being
I was just a bit startled.
I never know this is happening!
Not in an emo, self-depreciating way. I just never really notice.
not even last weekend?
...at atp?
Nope!
:(
I totally checked you out!
Not really maybe really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really Not really maybe not really maybe not really maybe not really
spunky, you may be on to a winner here
she'll have to get in the queue
i think ticket number 002 is next
"Your call is important to us"
:D
GHB, a coathanger and a hacksaw
perhaps they like your hair
I do, just checked you out in your profile pic, this thread kind of screamed to me to check you out, unfortunately the photo isnt too clear.
can we have a better clearer pic to scrutinise please?
no
your post screamed I should check you out. Like your hair, too.
The thread wasn't really about attractiveness - just the weirdness of never knowing how to respond or unintentionally responding. He was a work colleague, so am obviously not interested. It's just one of those things that can make one feel uncomfortable, but I suppose it's meant to be flattering?
I just never find it flattering, the very few times it happens to me
us blokes are lucky then, cos
i dont think we get checked out.....at least i dont and it sounds like other blokes feel the same way....in fact when women do look at you with a second glance, it feel more like they're checking you out for danger signals....criminal intent ...like im a bad man
guys get checked out.
fact.
clearly your just hideous
;)
there are fine lines to be trodden.
A glance = flattering
Someone glaring at you, goggle-eyed = creepy...unless they have a thyroid problem resulting in their eyes appearing larger and they are trying - albeit unsuccessfully - to give a flattering glance.
This genuinely never happens to me
ur wrong
I check you out regularly ;)
I assume i've got some food on my face, or there's a handsome man stood directly behind me.
If neither of these are true, and i'm sure she's not wonky-eyed, then i normally completely overeact.
^I turn around to see who's behind me..
..then when there isn't anyone, I think I've got something on my face. Then I realise I haven't, only then do I think that she may be "checking me out".
ha ha
exactly this. I always turn around. And there is someone hott behind me!
i read this as
"then i normally completely overeat".
first assume its not me
and if it is them scream and run away. if they chase after you after that then you know you are onto a winner.
I usually try and score a goal by dribbling round all the other players on the pitch.
That's how to impress the ladies even more, I've heard.
when at school this IS the way to impress the ladies
I only ever get checked out at schools.
are you one of the fit supply teachers that all the girls stare at?
the ones that make you feel shit about yourself cos you cant grow a beard or drive a car
Or the fact that you can never be Australian
Don't give up hope
one day you could become an Australian. Have faith
i like it cos it dont happen much!
I enjoy it if it happens
As long as it is an appreciative glance and not creepy staring/leering/drooling. Take it as a compliment.
Anyway, women don't check men out do they?
Cooeee!
see my above post.
Do they really? Even me? Even royter-hatfood?
well i don't know you...
but i check boys out (in RL) all the time. pretty much all girls do?! why is this such a mystery?! :)
All I ever hear is women going
'Ugh, that ugly brute he was looking at me'. Or similar. Maybe without the word brute.
I just assumed that women didn't really look at men in a sexyway. Maybe I'm missing out on things.
EVEN ROYTER-HATFOOD?
yeah also see my post ^
they just seem to look like they're frightened of me...."is he going to nick my purse?" is what they're eyes say to me
i thought you were a woman!
...or are you very empathic today?!
shit I've been outed by hangover clumsyness
I did have something more spectacular IRL revelation planned
so you're a man?
Serious?
why were you pretending to be a woman?
no, i think women appreciate it
I'm just awkward. Plus it happened at work, and work is the world's least sexiest setting.
well...
girls are a tad more SUBTLE about it... so that's possibly why you haven't noticed.... We're stealth-perves dontcha-know.
"how do you respond to being 'checked out'?"
My initial reaction to this title was:
Leave the hotel.
^^this
me too!
^5
Basically, we're awesome.
me too!
If they're attractive- I smile back.
This doesn't tend to happen too often though, or I don't notice and someone else has to point it out later on, when the opportunity is missed. Grr!
Ladies are far too subtle about this
either that or I'm dense, or it's not happening to me. Hm, that probably doesn't make me the best to be talking about this.
I'm fairly sure that I've only noticeably been checked out by gay men in the last few years. Even that's happening less. My gay appeal - my gaypeal - must be slipping.
Now, in our defence.. I think men do it at least semi-automatically a lot of the time. We know not what we do.
It's not even semi-automatic
I think it's totally automatic, it's the way we're programmed. If an attractive member of the female species walks by, we have to look! It’s involuntary, like blinking or wanking.
^ Exactly this.
Except
the 'full body scan;' where blokes do that up/down/up/down thing like Olllld Arnold at the start of The Terminator. That's a deliberate tactic to provoke a response, I think..
The problem with the full body scan
and quite often that's not enough and it has to be a double full body scan, is that it's usually done by filthy old pigs.
So the only response they get from me is a sneer or, if feeling particularly mean, a proper laugh in the face.
Rarely does a normal, attractive man do this sort of thing. In my experience anyway.
I BEG TO DIFFER.
YOU DON'T HAVE BREASTS.
Oh, hang on.
I give in.
I really give in. I'm just going to sit outside an all-ladies gym and wank myself into oblivion.
I guess this is where I say
"I cant stand the things that they do to me
I wont wait for Jesus to prove to me"
:D
this deserves more recognition.
Too Wright.
oh goodness my gracious!
Perhaps one of the things that makes them normal
or attractive is the ability to do this covertly?
That's probably spot-on Daniel.
Covert is fine. In your face is not.
this has never happened to me
^ this has never happened
to me either.
Why would it be embarrassing?
What's wrong with you?
I'd probably fall over.
This kind of thing never happens to me.
And if it has and just too subtle forme to notice, i'd much rather they slapped me in the face and said they thought iu was alright etc.
It's all dependent on esteem.
I can never tell when I'm being checked out
cue a lot of facepalm upon realisation that I missed out.
Scowl
I don't think it has ever happened
I have been told it has a couple of times by a third-party observer but I remain sceptical.
Believe it!
I was BLATES checking you out!
my life has just peaked
Whenever this happens to me I never notice
and get told about it later by whoever I was with. Couldn't they have told me at the time? Hmm.
I hate it as a rule
mostly because I find it creepy and intrusive, and because the people doing it are usually old, lecherous and nasty-looking. If it's relatively polite and from someone normal looking it's ok. Also - better in a bar than in the supermarket in the morning, right?
I had this, this morning on the tube going to work
Now, there's nothing wrong with window shopping and it's human nature to check people out (nicely, not in a sleazy way gentlemen) but I caught this woman's eye as she got on the tube this morning....and hey i'm taken anyway but thought,...well you wouldn't be my type.....
I then shut my eyes for the 10 minute journey.....opened them up after a minute or so when we got to the next station and this woman was smiling and staring at me....I shut my eyes again etc etc.....basivcally this woman apppeared to be watching me doze and as I got up to leave the train she just started beaming at me....I thought OMG you really are checking me out arent oyu....and not trying to hide it.